Want to get notified of all questions as they are asked? Update your mail preferences and turn on "Instant Notification."
Many of our ideas about the world are based more on feelings than facts, sensibilities than science, and rage than reality. We gravitate toward ideas that make us feel comfortable in areas such as religion, politics, philosophy, social justice, love and sex, humanity, and morality. We avoid ideas that make us feel uncomfortable. This avoidance is a largely unconscious process that affects our judgment and gets in the way of our ability to reach rational and reasonable conclusions. By understanding how our mind works in this area, we can start embracing uncomfortable ideas and be better informed, be more understanding of others, and make better decisions in all areas of life.
* This is for the author's bookstore only. Applies to autographed hardcover, audiobook, and ebook.
|
Going into this with no knowledge of how your relationship was or how this conversation went, I've seen similar scenarios play out in a couple different ways.
So, the fact that you and the pastor agreed that this woman wasn't a good fit for you may have demonstrated that he knows you well enough to bring up something you weren't aware of, or it may not have. But, assuming he did, I think he's still making an argument from false authority . He's using the fact that he was able to make accurate observations about one aspect of your life to assert that he knows what's best for you in a totally different aspect of your life. With regards to the areas of improvement listed: From a non-theological perspective, alcohol consumption can be a problem for some people, but "moderate" generally implies that it isn't. Choice of music and studying anatomy, I could only see being a problem in extreme circumstances. From a theological perspective, I tend to go on high alert whenever anyone claims to know God's will, as they're typically committing an appeal to heaven . For Christians, at least, I think an easy check on this is to see whether the claimed will of God is consistent with scripture. I haven't opened a Bible in a while, but I can think of two Gospel stories off the top of my head where Jesus provided people with wine. I can't think of any where musical styles are discussed, and I doubt it was even an issue they thought of back then. With regards to anatomy drawing, I can think of one passage that warns against looking at other people sexually, but having done nude figure drawing myself, a strong case can be made that those are not the same thing. |
answered on Saturday, Mar 08, 2025 12:36:31 AM by Mr. Wednesday | |
Mr. Wednesday Suggested These Categories |
|
Comments |
|
|