How can I handle mischaracterizations?

Hello!

Frequently I fall victim to mischaracterizations when I make some point, and I find myself in a very awkward and frustrating situation when the person I'm talking to turns the conversation in this fashion.

The definition of mischaracterization overlaps with that of the Ad Hominem fallacy.

So by mischaracterization, I mean that I find myself in situations, where I give solid reasons as to why the person is wrong. That person, rather than taking my point (or at the very least address the accusation and defend themselves), they respond in terms of the way my comment made them feel, and they make a counter accusation based on that emotion.

A few examples from my experience:

1) My grandmother has the annoying habit of speaking too loud on the phone. When she speaks to someone on the phone, she raises her voice level 3 times, so that her shouting can be heard from 2 rooms across. When I tell her to lower her volume because it is so irritating, or at least keep her call duration to a minimum (her average phone call lasts at least 12 minutes), she tells me: "Why are you being so disrespectful to your grandmother?"

2) My boss wanted me to do a certain task in a certain way. I proposed a different, much better and efficient way. My boss replied with: "Oh really? So clearly you think you know everything? No one likes a smart ass."

3) A female friend of mine was following some crazy diet for fat loss, which involved starvation and deprivation, where you are barely allowed to eat anything at all. I told her that starvation does not lead to permanent fat loss. That it is a physiological impossibility. She disagreed. I explained to her the difference between weight loss and fat loss, and showed her some scientific evidence I managed to quickly look up online. She immediately got upset and told me "Why are you being so mean to me?"

4) I am a fitness enthusiast, I absolutely love working out in the gym, and my goal is to be as strong and muscular as possible. So I exploit every advantage and technique I can to pursue that goal or ideal. I don't go much to parties or public gatherings. But when I do go to parties, I stay away from the booze, because alcohol greatly inhibits muscular recovery and testosterone levels. When people offer to pour me a drink, I refuse. They ask me why. I tell them that alcohol messes with my fitness progress and that I would rather not drink. They respond: "Oh common, live a little and get wasted! What? Are you training for a world championship or something? It's not like you're going to be the next Mister Olympia or anything!"

5)I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't go out late at night, because I go to bed early and wake up early, and people respond to that with comments like: "You are boring/a square/have no life, etc."

Of course, I still don't cave in to the peer pressure, stay away from the booze, and follow my own way, but it is comments like these that piss me off to end, because I end up losing the argument by being unable to formulate an adequate response.

How do I handle such situations, where people try to dismiss my position by mischaracterizing me, and refusing to engage the argument in a logical way?

Is there some kind of principle or technique for handling mischaracterizations and eliminating or disarming them?

1)...stock fallacy yet nevertheless, leave your grandmother alone or tell her its her fault You have such great hearing because she constantly made you clean your ears as a kid.
2).."no one likes a smart ass", stock reply, "I'm not a smart ass but I will suffice until one gets here"
3) if FWB, shut up until it gets to be obsessive in a way that's problematic.. If not FWB, the "eat 6 times a day to burn fat diet" is rather appealing
4) never explain why you don't drink, just say you don't drink, it should be adequate.
5) if you go to sleep and wake up, you have a life however, if you go to sleep and don't wake up. You don't have a life.
...It is illogical to assume that people should talk to you logically...